The popular R&B song “Focus” by H.E.R. is filled with examples of how a young lady is desperately trying to get her partners attention. This song has been on repeat in my head since Minister Wendell Powell used it as a foundation of one of his sermons. The songstress is frustrated and ready to walk away from her relationship. He’s always playing on his phone, probably Facebook or Instagram. Lol.
Recently, I was chatting with my girlfriends about forgiveness especially in marriages. It’s always the partners fault and he needs to do…. and stop…… Fill in the blank. Then this song popped in my head again. It made me think, sometimes when we are hurt we act out of desperation and do/say things because of the pain we suffer. Forgiveness can be such a difficult act to do. However, when you change the focus and say, “Focus on Me” it really can change your perspective and outcome.
Today, I challenge you to focus on the things that YOU can control – YOU. It is not our responsibility to change others but allow our lives to model the behaviors we would like others to see. If your partner is always on Facebook and not giving you their undivided attention, YOU make the change. Make a point by declaring that you don’t want to be disturbed tonight so they can have your undivided attention. Or those moments when you are getting what you need, YOU should compliment and recognize the behavior. When you focus on YOU, you will get more of your needs met. YOU will be more satisfied and happier with yourself thus allowing you to be able to give and love that is not covered in those items that blurred your focus. Today focus on YOU!
“So let’s keep focused on that goal, those of us who want everything God has for us. If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear your blurred vision—you’ll see it yet! Now that we’re on the right track, let’s stay on it.”
Philippians 3:15-16 MSG
Focus by H.E.R.