Tired? Stressed? A little overwhelmed some days? Everything and everyone getting on your last nerve? Maybe it’s just me. My internal alarm clock goes off daily at 6:53am. I usually begin with 30 minutes of Shana time (silence, prayer and mediation). Then coffee time. Then the corporate clock timer begins at 8am. My day is full with Can you? Will you? Do you? What about? All while being a wife – Where is my?, mother – Ma? What’s for lunch? What’s for dinner? Let’s…? Time to go to…..? If you could relate to any of those questions, this post is for you.
Let’s be clear, I am not complaining because I love every aspect of my busy life. It is the life that God made especially for me at this exact time (Jeremiah 29:11). But if I’m being honest, there are days that I don’t always like it. ??♀️ More specifically, when life happens and its not all sunshine? and rainbows? . You know those days when everything happens at once. Crazy day at work, debits less than credits, children acting like they didn’t have any home training and add you still working to make sure home is taken care of.
During these times, I have moments of weaknesses. Sound familiar? Recently, I was having one of those days. I wanted to just cuss everyone out and give up but that really wasn’t an option since its not who I am and probably would not be the best career decision either. What I decided to do was change the atmosphere. Change my mind. Focus on me. I went to church and the pastor had an amazing sermon, “The Wall – Removing the Barriers from Your Life”. He spoke to exactly what I had been feeling, and my hope was restored. There was desire for me to break my routine and just be around others and I did just that. Well, what I discovered is that I am not alone. I was able to talk freely (without fear of judgment or embarrassment) about some of the difficult situations that were going on in my life. I truly was not alone. I was surrounded by several women who were experiencing some of the exact same feelings that I was. I talked. I laughed. I cried. I felt relieved. I felt supported. I felt encouraged.
At that moment, I saw how critical my circle is to who I have been called to be. Think about it for a minute. What is a circle? A circle is simply a closed shape. You can not determine where it starts or ends. Nothing gets in and nothing gets out. That’s how I felt being surrounded by these women. We were not in a physical circle but we were in a spiritual circle. Where one was suffering, the other could relate, offer advise or pray for one another. It was therapeutic for everyone. Our souls and spirits were connected by love. It was an interaction where I could express how I was feeling and not fear being judged or embarrassed by my personal situations. It was a time of giving and receiving. A circle of love and support. It was one of my circles. And at this moment, I realized I have different circles for different aspects of my life: Best friend circle, spiritual circle, development circle.
Today, I ask who is in your circle? Circles? Have you established a foundation of love and support? A team that can pick you up and carry you when you are weak. Yes, even the strong gets weak. Some people struggle with asking for help. Maybe its just me. But I feared (past tense) that other’s would perceive me as weak. Well, if we could do everything on our own then we wouldn’t believe in the scriptures that say, I can do all things through God who strengthens me. ” It’s clear that weakness must exist in order for God to do Him. Isaiah 30:18- 19 reads, ” So the Lord must wait for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the Lord is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for His help. O people of Zion, who live in Jerusalem, you will weep no more. He will be gracious if you ask for help. He will surely respond to the sound of your cries.” (KJV)
Friends, you never have to be alone. It’s a choice. Choose to take the lead and create your own circles of love, and support. There is someone else out there who also needs to be connected.
My goal is to inspire each person in my circle to create her own circle of support and LOVE and they in turn will create their circle…..